giving gifts is not my gift

confession:  i am a terrible gift giver.

terr. i. ble.

i’m surprised i have any friends left.  i still have a family because, well, they can’t leave me.

one of my closest friends is a wonderful, thoughtful gift giver (see her gift to me here).  her birthday is the day before mine, so in theory, we should get each other’s gifts at about the same time.  nope.  she sends mine at least a few weeks early, while i send mine at least 3 weeks late.  i’m nothing if not consistent, people.

i decided that if i’m going to be late, at least i could get her something thoughtful.  but i couldn’t think of anything!  so i decided to just keep a look out wherever i went for the perfect gift.


i was at aaron brothers, buying colored pencils for my kids, when i was the sucker at the checkout counter.  they had these beautiful hobnail candles that i just loved!  the colors were so pretty with the gold lid.  and the scent… so yummy.  kind of a pina colada flavor.  but really, i bought it because it was pretty and i knew nicole would appreciate it.

so i’m super pleased with myself and think i’ve nailed the gift.

then this happens.


somebody who i couldn’t get mad at accidentally dropped the glass candle jar on the garage floor when she was trying to help me get all my junk out of the car.


thankfully, i went back to aaron brothers and the cashier helped me find a 50% off coupon on my phone to get the candle at a huge discount – yay!


i also gave her a couple of my copper & leather tassel necklaces and the sweetest oregon scarf i found at our thrift store (she lives in oregon).


i wrapped it all up in the scarf and it was done… just a few weeks late.  also known as: right on time!


  1. 1
    Rebecca says:

    I think this is an awesome gift!! She will love it! I dont think we have an aaron bothers here, but I want that candle!

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    I love the color of that candle – and the necklace goes with it perfectly! And, I think you are so clever to wrap it up in a scarf! All great ideas!

  3. 3

    Looks like a great gift to me! You always seem so thoughtful and your presentation is perfection! My friends and I don’t even do gifts which is so lame!

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    lynnann says:

    I love your honesty and everything about your blog today:) Sweet story and such a neat gift.

  5. 5

    That’s a perfect gift!

    My best friend is the world’s best gift giver. It’s pretty amazing. I’ve long since given up keeping up with her but I always know I’ll love any gift she sends my way.

  6. 6

    Well, I think that’s a pretty awesome gift. My husband is so good at gift giving, and I’m always scrambling to come up with something thoughtful at the last minute, so I hear ya.

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    Love the color of the candle~ Beautiful!


  8. 8

    That scarf looks absolutely gorgeous. And the color of that candle is perfection – love love gold in combo with… anything.

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    I HATE when things like this happen. Honestly, when I saw the picture of the broken candle my heart sunk for you. That would actually male me sad for weeks. That cashier was SO NICE to help you find a discount. And as for being the worst gift-giver ever…..the politics of gift-giving is so strange. We are a culture that produces so much and has so much, but a huge importance is still placed on giving material possessions.

    I’m sure your friend wouldn’t even care if you stopped giving her gifts but started calling a few more times a year to see how she was doing. In Italy, for the first few years I used to give gifts to everyone, but here no one has any money to give gifts! Sometimes they can make people feel uncomfortable! For someone’s birthday it is normal not to bring a gift but to be sure to spend time with that persona having a drink or going for a dinner.

    Based on your blog you seems like a thoughtful and BUSY lady, so I’m sure that if your gifts arrive three weeks late the person’s first thought is probably “wow she managed to think of me, even though she has so much to do” instead of “geez, she could have thought of me sooner”!

    great post!

    Angie from reasons to dress, fashion, real mom street style & life as a North American mom in Italy.

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    Love this gift. Very thoughtful. I’d love a tutorial on making your leather tassel necklaces. LOVE them! Where do you get your tassels?

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    Connie Boyd says:

    I love the tassel necklaces… and I would love to learn how to make them… would you be so kind to share a tutorial? Thanks!

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